In this now more mobile world, we recognize that people move around for work…for love and family.
We are Tala & Didi and we are both trailing spouses. We’ve trailed along side our respective husbands to the countries, far away from home, where they’ve found work. We jumped into this new chapter of our lives as supportive spouses, feet first with one eye wide open and another wearing a rose-colored monocle. We thought that just being with the loves of our lives would be more than enough to make things so much easier.
But easy, it ain’t!
Being a trailing spouse is a roller coaster adventure with odd twists, unexpected turns and stomach tickling loop de loops. A lot of times, we did feel that we were on the wild ride alone. It seemed that there was no one else who could truly understand the challenges we’ve faced. But, in our cross country friendship (Tala was in Sri Lanka, while I was in Dubai then), we’ve learned that we are not alone because there is a common thread amongst fellow trailing spouses.
And this is why we started the #TrailingSpouseStories blog crawl.
We believe that, regardless of where you are in the world, by sharing our unique stories, we’d be able to learn from and even support each other through our journeys as a community of trailing spouses.
You mean there are more trailing spouses out there? YES! And we’d love for you to join us in this crazy, fun blog crawl 🙂
So how does this #TrailingSpousesStories blog crawl work? Do you need to get down and dirty on all fours and crawl under obstacles to join?
We understand that being a trailing spouse is an obstacle in itself, so you don’t need to go through any more to join. All we need are your stories – funny ones, heartwarming ones, sad ones, maybe even the hair pulling ones. Whatever you’ve experienced! But with lessons in the end, of course. We are spreading some trailing spouse good vibes here.
So, each month, for an entire year (or hopefully more), we dig deep into a theme, a question, a scenario oh-so familiar to any trailing spouse.
Here’s the run down of what we want to “talk” about:
NOVEMBER 2014: The First Voyage
- What was in your bag? What did you fit in your “suitcases” when you first left your home country to become a Trailing Spouse? A favorite book? An obscure object that reminds you of home? An identity?
DECEMBER 2014: Christmas Around The World
- How were the Christmas holidays outside your home country? How is it similar and different? What did you enjoy most spending Christmas abroad?
JANUARY 2015: A New Year
- How was it like starting over in a new country – if you have done it multiple times, does it get easier or harder, and what are you building in the new year?
FEBRUARY 2015: Love for home country
- So what makes you homesick and how do you deal with it?
MARCH 2015: In Celebration of Women’s Month
- How being a trailing spouse made you a stronger, better woman? So sorry, but no boys this month!
APRIL 2015: April Fools!
- What got you “fooled” into being a trailing spouse? What myths did you start out with and what did you discover instead? (Take us on a funny spin!)
MAY 2015: “Bloom where you’re planted”
- How do you think you’ve bloomed in your past and / or current location?
In Celebration of Philippine Independence Day For love of my host country How are you a better Filipino (or your nationality) abroad? Does being a Filipino (or your nationality) in your host country carry a certain stereotype? How do you deal when faced with this stereotype?Do you love your current host country? Why or why not? Do you think you have integrated yourself into the local culture and local society? Have you any defining experiences that have shaped your relationship with your host country? Have you “paid it forward” in gratitude to your host country?
JULY 2015: Home Sweet Home
- What is home? How do you make your new home, home?
AUGUST 2015: Travel secrets to your country
- If I were to move to your current country, what are the top 10 sources of information that would give me the most comprehensive insights, most useful tips and the most realistic expectations?
SEPTEMBER 2015: Who Is Your Village?
- The cliche “It takes a village to raise a child” could not be more true about the trailing spouse life. It does take an entire village to make one’s trailing spouse life better. Who is your village? How have they helped you through the trailing spouse life?
OCTOBER 2015: Fall Reflections
- What have you let go in order to become a trailing spouse and what have you gained because of that?
So after reminiscing through your trailing spouse journey, write down your story, insights, thoughts and lessons on respective blogs every 1st Monday of the month. Don’t forget to include links to fellow trailing spouses joining the #TrailingSpouseStories blog crawl.
If you don’t have a blog but still wish to join, you may either “guest post” at one of the participants’ blogs or be interviewed by one of them. To do this you may contact any current participant, Didi or myself.
So what are you waiting for? Join in the fun! And when all is said and posted, get your glass of your favorite beverage, take a deep breath, keep calm and crawl on!
TO JOIN IN OUR NOVEMBER CRAWL, PLEASE SUBMIT YOUR DETAILS HERE.
Cheering you on,
Tala & Didi