That doggone lechon!

Longing for lechon

Whenever to travel to the bigger cities like New York City or Los Angeles, we hunt down authentic Filipino eats that we’ve been deprived of for months or even years. Those dishes that are always cooked in bulk and are too labor intensive to replicate at home in a household of two. One of those dishes is the lechon, a whole pig, stuffed with lemongrass and other aromatics, skewered with a bamboo pole and roasted over hot coals, usually served as the piece de resistance in big celebrations like a fiesta, a birthday or a wedding.

So when we came across a great tasting boneless lechon in New Jersey, we just had to take some home.

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#TrailingSpouseStories: The definition of being a modern Filipino woman

Traditional vs modern (Photo by Eole Wind)

Since we are celebrating women’s month this March, us, trailing spouses will share our take on what it means to be a woman given our unique experiences. Has being a trailing spouse raised questions about womanhood? Has it made us better, stronger women? How has it shaped our perspectives about being a woman, citizen of the world? Or, for the boys, how has their trailing journey affected their women partners?

I’ve never seriously thought about my womanhood until I left the Philippines

In the Philippines, I enjoyed a pretty smooth sailing life as a modern woman. I shared the same privileges and opportunities men did. I was educated, finished with a Masters degree. I had a career in a women dominated industry with more than decent salary and employee benefits. I was mostly financially independent. I could earn my keep, be who I wanted to be with hard work and more as a woman.

Of course, there still were the traditional expectations of getting married, being able to manage a home – know how to cook and clean – and bring forth life to this earth. I got married, so that was tick off the list. The managing the home was easy too. I could just have somebody else do it for me; its just part of the perks of living in the Philippines. Bring forth life to this earth? Well, that is debatable, not the be all and end all of being a woman.

To me, this was the definition of being THE modern Filipino woman: having to take advantage of opportunities available and juggling multiple roles because I am expected to fulfill traditional roles as a wife and possibly a mother as an educated professional. I thought I had to be and have it all, and I think I almost got all the bases I wanted covered.

Then Dubai happened.

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The buildings of New York City: A photo diary

“The concrete jungle where dreams are made of”

Last weekend, The Husband, Obi and I were in New York City. The sun was out and it was a good day to be out meeting and catching up with friends.

But unfortunately, with all that snow that accumulated on the ground and the sun shining all day meant puddles of melted snow mixed with the city dirt and garbage. It was not a pretty sight nor a fuzzy feeling when your shoed and socked feet dive into one. So with the onslaught of rushing New Yorkers, confused tourists and an excited probinsyano (i.e. country bumpkin) dog, it was a challenge to keep up the pace and conversation and revel in the sights around.

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The Flatiron building in NYC

Majestic building

Obi and I are pretty much stuck within the confines of the hotel room due to the limitations brought about by the winter storm looming over the northeast now and the fact that Obi is not human. America is not as pet friendly as I imagined and expected, but understandably so and more on that later.

Almost the same time last year, The Husband and I were here. The weather was indeed better (albeit still cold) and we did not have Obi yet. I was free to explore NYC as The Husband worked hard in NJ.

One of the NYC icons I stumbled upon (it was close to a friend’s office) was the Flatiron building.

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Notes from the frozen northeast

Snow, snow, snow

“I’ve never see so much snow in my entire life…” I gushed to The Husband, whose two hands were gripping the steering wheel, back hunched over, eyes squinting through the frosted windshield to vigilantly watch the slushy highway. It was supposed to be a 4-hour drive from Washington DC to South New Jersey, but I knew we were defintely in it for an hour or two longer.

The skies were a depressing grey. The fields and hills were covered in snow that seemed to go on and on into oblivion. The streams, creeks, rivers and my feet were iced.

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Owning a pet in America

Hi there! Love, Obi Juan the corgi

Owning a pet was easy in the Philippines. You get a pet: buy it from a reputable pet store / breeder, adopt one from family, friends or a neighbor or pick one off the streets (which we did a lot). Feed it: your choice of table scraps or pet food off the animal feed store. Play and walk with it whenever you have the time. Let the househelp deal with the dirty jobs like giving it a bath, scooping the poop and cleaning the kennel. Occasionally bring it to the vet, mostly during emergency situations.

I was that kind of pet owner. Too busy to really care. Maybe even irresponsible (sadly), highly dependent on other people.

But in America, I learned that owning a pet is so much more than giving love. Duh. It costs money (like most dreams do). Let me tell you what you need to budget for when you decide to get a dog in the US.

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Pilipinas, I love you. Pilipinas, I love you not.

Pilipinas kong mahal?

This love month is not only for expressing our love for our expat partners. There are other people and objects of our affection like our home countries. This month we, trailing spouses, talk about our homesickness, our longing for our home countries, which we do love in more ways than one.

I have a love-hate relationship with my home country. I daresay I will never ever pretend. I hate pretending. I won’t praise it to the high heavens and say that the Philippines is the best country in the world or that I have been awfully, depressingly homesick and have been itching to come home at the soonest possible time.

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What the dog does when left alone

It is inevitable that Obi would be left behind at home at times.

In the extremely pet / animal friendly US, there are still a lot of places where pet are not allowed. Of course, not everybody can welcome pets into their establishments. There are still a number of people, who are either allergic or afraid, perhaps because of past traumatic experiences like a bite. Or there are just some establishments where utmost cleanliness is required like the supermarket, pharmacy, hospital or restaurants (not all).

So whenever The Husband and I go out for errands, to Church, to eat out or to attend hoomans only events, Obi stays at home in his crate.

Why crate him?

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My thoughts on “Fresh Off the Boat” TV show

Little Eddie Huang in very white Orlando, FL in the 90s (Photo from the Disney ABC TV group)

Ever since I stumbled upon the teaser trailers of “Fresh Off the Boat” last year, I was excited. An Asian American family comedy on one of the major US TV channels? Okay, I have not been in the US that long, but this one is different.

You’ve got white people family comedy. You’ve got black people family comedy. You’ve got hispanic family comedy. And FINALLY, we’ve got Asian (well, East Asian and then some, at least) family comedy to look forward to.

I watched the two-part season premiere last Wednesday and I was partly laughing my ass off and partly could not relate.

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How to make the most of your visit to The Alamo

On tour at The Alamo

I hate being an awful tourist, one that comes, snaps a picture for posterity and goes. I don’t usually do that because I do want to savor every second I am in a new place, but I was one of them awful snap happy for show tourists when we visited the historical Texas monument, the Alamo in San Antonio.

I regret it so much (and really wish that we could visit the place again) and I share my unsolicited advice to those who plan to visit the Alamo.

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